Fourth Blog Check!! #4
Dear Class,
I have always understood gender as male and female. However, as I have grown older, I have realized that people view this concept differently. One of my earliest memories related to gender was at a local Baptist church when I was around seven or eight years old. I noticed a man dressed as a woman, and in my childlike curiosity, I asked him, “Why are you dressed as a girl?” I remember that his response was immediate—he became upset and spoke to my mom about how hurt he was. At the time, I did not understand why, but as I have seen more people express themselves in different ways, I have come to recognize the emotions behind his reaction.
Conversations about gender and identity are now woven into everyday life—appearing in social media, education, and relationships. Many of my friends are part of the LGBTQ+ community, and while I do not personally support their choices, I care deeply for them and strive to treat everyone with respect. Regardless of differing views, I believe each person is a child of God, deserving of kindness. One friendship of mine that stands out because it was also a past relationship. Two years ago, I dated someone who was a member of the church and had expressed thoughts about transitioning to female. At the time, I did not consider how this might affect our relationship or our personal journeys. That January, I excitedly gave him a letter asking him to be my Valentine. Our relationship did not last long, and we eventually went separate ways. Reflecting on that experience, I realize how deeply our environments shape the way we see ourselves and the world around us.
I believe that God created each of us intentionally. If He had intended for us to be a different gender, He would have made us that way from the start. His design is purposeful, and while people have different perspectives on identity, I hold firm in my belief that He has a plan for each of us. I know that choosing to follow Him is a personal decision, one that requires faith and trust.
At the same time, societal expectations create unnecessary pressure on men and women. I don't get why women are expected to be polished and graceful at all times, while men are told they must be strong and emotionally reserved. These roles feel restrictive and outdated. I believe it is perfectly fine for men to show emotion just as it is for women to be physically strong and independent. Strength, talent, and capability are not determined by gender. Some men thrive on communication and empathy, while some women possess remarkable athleticism and resilience. Each person should be free to develop their skills without fear of judgment or limitation.
As a psychology major, I have studied how men and women approach emotions and conflict. My own family reflects these patterns. I have four brothers—Rylan, Mikey, Ayden, and Brennan—and my stepdad, Mike. When they face disagreements, they resolve them quickly and move forward without dwelling on emotional details. My sisters—Azren, Ava, Sophia, Mckenzie, and Brooklyn—and I experience emotions differently. We vocalize our frustrations, and at times, it takes longer for us to mend relationships after arguments. Despite these differences, we always support one another when challenges arise, reinforcing the strength of familial bonds.
In one of our recent class discussions, we explored how childhood experiences influence gender identity. Many of us may not have spent much time in same-gender peer groups, which could affect how we see ourselves today. My ex-boyfriend’s childhood was shaped largely by academic focus due to his autism, limiting his interactions with other boys. His environment—his friends, his social circles, and the media he consumed—normalized the idea of transitioning, shaping how he saw himself. I believe structured spaces where boys and girls can develop friendships within their gender provide value. These environments are not about forcing conformity, but rather about ensuring young individuals feel secure in who they are before outside influences lead them to question their identity. If children had stronger opportunities for same-gender peer bonding, they might grow up with a more confident sense of self.
Gender roles continue to evolve, and perspectives on identity remain diverse. No matter where I stand, I believe in respectful and open conversations. We may not always agree, but listening to different perspectives fosters understanding and personal growth. By engaging with one another thoughtfully, we create space for meaningful dialogue that strengthens our awareness of the world around us.
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